Living a bit more than a quarter-life

I don't know what this blog is going to end up being, trying to pen down the feelings of a 20-something person is not easy at all. There are multiple dimensions to what you have felt, are feeling, and will feel as a 20-something-year-old person. But this is about me and what 0.00001% of being in this weird yet significant period of life feels like.

Typically, once you hit your mid-twenties up until the early thirties, it's said we all go through a quarter-life crisis where a lot of things are packed with uncertainty, anxiety, and stress of not knowing what we are doing and what is going to happen. But, I think we all have lived more than a quarter of our lives already by now, if you have crossed the magical 'mid-twenties' (Well, you aren't going to live a hundred years, are you?)

If I talk about myself, I think I have everything a mid-twenty-year-old person needs --- a job that takes care of the bills and shopping carts, a family I don't need to support financially but get endless emotional guidance from, a few close people whom I can call my very close friends, able to save and invest for the near future, and not having any major health issues. It seems I have more than I could have ever asked for being someone in the average to above average in most of the things in life till now. Yet, when I come back home at 6 in the evening, I don't feel good about most of the things in my life 😕

"Did you see she got married, they look so good together"

"Dude, he got a great switch in this company with a super package, what are we doing yaar"

"She looks so good now, lost so much weight. How is she managing it all"

"That guy from our college goes on a trip every month, I am so jealous I can barely go on one trip in a year"

"I am feeling stuck yaar, I really don't know what to do next"

These are some of the conversations I have almost daily with my very close friends, about whom I talked a while back. Somedays we agree to each other's whining, other days we give the other one a nice pep talk that everything is gonna be fine 😬

This makes me realize, doesn't matter what stage of life we are in, everyone in their twenty-something years is feeling more or less similar things, with not many people to share it with because all of us are in the same boat!

I too was in the same conundrum having a heap load of things to tell out loud but no one to share who would understand what I was going through.

On one regular video call session with my mother on a weekend, with whom I don't usually share a lot of things, as being 2000 kilometers away she will have sleepless nights because of my problems 😂, I told her how I had so many questions in my mind regarding my life, career, money, and all other things.

And what she said was not anything groundbreaking or revolutionary, but it was what I needed to hear, "I know what you are going through, and what you will go through in the next 3-4 years. There will be slight differences in both of our experiences because of how things in the world have changed with Facebook and all (Social media = Facebook, for my mom). But, you have to go through this phase and not know how to figure it out for a while. In hindsight, you will see you have thrived".

That was the only thing I wanted to hear, perhaps?

Whoever is reading this will be in either of the 3 buckets - Not yet hit this phase, in this phase, passed this phase (and smiling in their minds 😀).

Not sure if this helps, but we are all in the same boats with different speeds to our destinations, whatever that is. A lot of times, to navigate the boats a little better, going back to the parents/guardians helps a lot, knowing that the sea ahead is not as rough as we think in our minds 🌊